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==Background==
===[[Prostitution Laws in the UK|What about the Law]]?===
In the United Kingdom it is legal for consenting adults to agree to a money-for-sex exchange. However, there are a number of related activities, including soliciting in a public place, kerb crawling, owning or managing a brothel and pimping that are classified as illegal. Furthermore, in England, Wales and in Northern Ireland it is an offence to pay for sex with a prostitute who has been “subjected to force” and this is a strict liability offence (clients can be prosecuted even if they did not know the prostitute was forced).
Please notice also that although the age of consent for non-commercial sex is 16, it is illegal to buy sex from a person younger than 18.
As long as you visit an independent prostitute, aged 18 or over, you are not breaking the law.
'''Brothels:''' Any premises (e.g. flats, saunas, massage parlours) may be classified as a brothels if they are used by more than one man or woman for the purpose of prostitution, '''whether on the same day or on different days.''' So, if you see a prostitute, say on a Monday at a particular flat; and another prostitute the next day in the same flat then the premises will still count as a brothel, even though there is never more than one person working at any one time.
Where rooms or flats in a building are let separately to different individuals offering sexual services, the premises as a whole may still count as a brothel if the individuals are effectively working together. Evidence of shared keys, washing and toilet facilities, staircases, tenancy agreements, etc.may still be relevant.
A punter could only get prosecuted if it was proved that a prostitute in the brothel was being coerced and/or was underage. Aside from that visiting a brothel (even though they are illegal) is not an offence. It's the owner/madam/pimp and anyone that actively helps them run it that could be prosecuted for 'Causing or inciting prostitution for gain' and/or 'Controlling prostitution for gain'.
If you punt with a trafficked escort, you are breaking the law. If you are reasonably sure an escort is being trafficked (not just guessing), report it here: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/immigration/trafficking/report-human-trafficking/
In the unlikely scenario that the brothel gets raided by the police while you are visiting, you may be asked to give your details. You must do so as giving false details may land you in trouble.
* See Also [[Useful Threads on UKP #Prostitution And the Law| Prostitution and the Law]]
===What about [[Trafficking]]===
If you suspect trafficking, it is your job to report it. [https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/immigration/report-human-trafficking You can do this anonymously.] Do it right away.
Thread on [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=289215.0| trafficking] [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=351077 Another.]
===What about STI/STDs?===
There is no short answer to this question. It is generally advised, however, to engage in safe sex by using condoms at all times; this includes oral sex. Condoms help protect you during oral sex in addition to vaginal or anal sex. "That said, condoms don’t offer 100% protection. For example, the herpes virus can be transmitted to your genitals even if you’re wearing a condom. Why? Herpes is spread through skin-to-skin contact with an infected person. A partner with oral herpes can spread the virus to your genitals during oral sex if your partner’s mouth comes into contact with any area of your genitals that isn’t covered by a condom." <ref>https://www.sexualhealth.com/do-condoms-protect-against-stds-during-oral-sex_question_62/</ref>
Having said that, however, you will notice that a lot of punters opt to engage in [[Glossary #OWO|OWO]] (oral sex without a condom) as it is their preference. Whilst engaging in OWO is a personal choice, it is worth noting that there is a small risk that STIs can be transmitted via unprotected oral sex. Ultimately it is up to you to decide whether the risk involved in OWO merits the rewards you get from it. [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=149738.0 Thread from 2017] [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=329245.0 Thread from 2021]
It is also recommended that you visit GUM clinics regularly; at least every three months. People who frequent sex workers are also advised to have a Hep-B vaccination. You can find your local GUM clinic with this helpful finder:
*[https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/find-a-sexual-health-clinic/ Find a clinic]
or for London
*[https://www.shl.uk/ Sexual Health London]
See also
* [[Useful Threads on UKP #Punting and sexual health | Punting and sexual health discussion threads on UKP]]
* [http://www.tht.org.uk/sexual-health/Improving-your-sexual-health/Oral-sex Terrence Higgins Trust article on Oral Sex and HIV]
* [https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/477702/HIV_in_the_UK_2015_report.pdf 2015 report on HIV]
* [http://www.tradesexualhealth.com/sexual-health.html LGBT site but good advice]
* [https://www.bashhguidelines.org/media/1269/pep-2021.pdf Do I need PEP?] Technical paper on using PEP to avoid HIV infection.
===What is an Incall/Outcall?===
*'''Incall''' - An incall appointment is where you visit the escort in her flat or sometimes a hotel, which she will have booked and paid for. These are usually slightly cheaper than outcall appointments as escorts do not have travel time and can therefore see more clients in a working day. They can also be more discreet as some agencies or escorts require additional security checks for outcall bookings. <br />
*'''Outcall''' - An outcall booking is where you ask an escort to visit you at your home or hotel room. They usually cost more than an Incall to allow for travel time and beyond a certain distance some escorts or agencies may charge travelling expenses on top. Sometimes they will ask for your real name as a security check as they will check on 192.com that you actually live there or with the hotel reception that you are a guest. For security reasons alone this makes them less popular unless you have confidence in the discretion of the agency or escort. [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=319499.0 Thread aug 21]
If you have never seen a prostitute before it is probably best you start by doing an incall.
===I'm a virgin and I'm thinking about losing my virginity to an escort===
In [http://www.ukpunting.com/index.php UKPunting] forums there is usually a consensus that rather than looking for a punt you should look for the reasons why you have not yet lost your virginity. If you are chronically shy and are afraid of building relationships with women maybe you should try and overcome those issues first. Having said that, if you are really interested in losing your virginity to a prostitute then by all means do a bit of research on UKPunting forums and find an escort that you fancy.
As a virgin, you will probably feel very nervous the first time you have sex. That is completely understandable and plucking up the courage to try your first punt will be difficult. Be realistic and don't expect too much of yourself or the punt.
Make sure the escort you choose has good reviews on UKPunting, do try and ignore the feedback from AdultWork. Do not worry about your looks, body or the size of your cock. The prostitute's job is to have sex with strangers for money regardless of their looks, etc. They are also very used to all kinds of male personalities; from the alpha males to the chronically shy. They have seen it all so you will be OK. [https://www.puntingwiki.com/wiki/Punting_Myths#Newbie_Punters_Should_See_a_Mature_Escort_First See Also:Should she be mature? ] [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=122530.0 Thread on the topic]
===I'm a virgin, disabled and would like to visit an escort===
By all means read UKP forums and this wiki to get as much information as possible. If you still have some questions do post them on the forum.
You may also want to look at The TLC Trust; a UK organisation that seeks to connect people with disabilities to sex workers. Tuppy Owens, TLC Trust's founder and sex therapist, said that each of the 100 sex workers listed on the website could be seeing around eight disabled clients a month. <ref>http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/feb/12/disabled-people-valid-sexual-partners</ref>
The TLC Trust - http://www.tlc-trust.org.uk/
=== I am ugly/overweight/I have self confidence issues, will escorts refuse to see me? ===
There is a myth that goes about that prostitutes will only give a good service to good looking punters. Whilst that might be true with very few prostitutes the majority will not care what you look like. Prostitutes are selling a service not looking for dates with eligible men. Because of the nature of their job prostitutes will have seen a huge range of men; from the very ugly to the very good looking. As long as you are clean, polite, respectful and have the agreed amount of money it's highly unlikely she will refuse to see you.
If you have confidence issues about yourself, you can help by doing little things like having a shower before the punt, brush your teeth (halitosis is a huge turn off), do not go overboard with aftershave or antiperspirant, do not try to mask body odour with antiperspirants. Trim or shave your pubic hair. Most prostitutes prefer a clean and well maintained pubic area rather than a very bushy one, especially when offering OWO. Turning up clean and shaved also gives a reassurance to the prostitute that you do take care of yourself and, therefore, cleanliness is important to you.
If it helps you with your confidence, wear clean and smart clothes. Studies have shown that the clothes you wear can have an impact on how you feel about yourself.<ref>http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/04/wearing-a-suit-makes-people-think-differently/391802/</ref> <ref>http://spp.sagepub.com/content/6/6/661</ref>
If you are still anxious about your visit to a prostitute, call her and ask if she sees ugly/overweight men but only do this for your own peace of mind, normally you wouldn't need to do so.
Lastly this is from a prostitute's point of view:
::''"Speaking from the other side of the fence It does not matter if you are fat or skinny, short or tall, handsome or ugly as long as you are clean and smell fresh especially down there and your breath is fresh with no obvious signs of gum disease. If you are all of those you won't get turned away and if she makes it obvious straight away she isn't into you then keep your money and walk. If clean fresh and polite she should be making you feel like the most handsome man on the planet from the moment you walk in the door. No we can't fancy everyone but it should never be shown. We get paid a rather handsome amount to act as if you are the best looking man we have met and to treat you as such and any girl that doesn't is either in the wrong job or has seen you as a soft touch she can take the piss out of so its better for you to leave with your money in your pocket.''
::''Don't think you have to book someone who you feel is in your league as you don't. Just book who you fancy. However unless she states she specialises in seeing inexperienced or nervous guys don't tell her it is your first time (unless recommended on here by known punters) as she could well take the piss. For your first time perhaps look on here in your area for a well reviewed girl so you are pretty well ensured a good time and can be honest about being a virgin. It's probably your safest bet." [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=72114.msg911431#msg911431 Dani]''
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==How do I get Started?==
* Rule one do what you want. There is no progression or 'right' path. If you want a massage with Happy Ending then do so. If you want sex with a 22yo size 8 girl, then book her. Everyone's likes and everyone's path is their own.
* Equally, if you are not sure you want sex with an escort, then don't. It is an expensive hobby.
==Background==
===[[Prostitution Laws in the UK|What about the Law]]?===
In the United Kingdom it is legal for consenting adults to agree to a money-for-sex exchange. However, there are a number of related activities, including soliciting in a public place, kerb crawling, owning or managing a brothel and pimping that are classified as illegal. Furthermore, in England, Wales and in Northern Ireland it is an offence to pay for sex with a prostitute who has been “subjected to force” and this is a strict liability offence (clients can be prosecuted even if they did not know the prostitute was forced).
Please notice also that although the age of consent for non-commercial sex is 16, it is illegal to buy sex from a person younger than 18.
As long as you visit an independent prostitute, aged 18 or over, you are not breaking the law.
'''Brothels:''' Any premises (e.g. flats, saunas, massage parlours) may be classified as a brothels if they are used by more than one man or woman for the purpose of prostitution, '''whether on the same day or on different days.''' So, if you see a prostitute, say on a Monday at a particular flat; and another prostitute the next day in the same flat then the premises will still count as a brothel, even though there is never more than one person working at any one time.
Where rooms or flats in a building are let separately to different individuals offering sexual services, the premises as a whole may still count as a brothel if the individuals are effectively working together. Evidence of shared keys, washing and toilet facilities, staircases, tenancy agreements, etc.may still be relevant.
A punter could only get prosecuted if it was proved that a prostitute in the brothel was being coerced and/or was underage. Aside from that visiting a brothel (even though they are illegal) is not an offence. It's the owner/madam/pimp and anyone that actively helps them run it that could be prosecuted for 'Causing or inciting prostitution for gain' and/or 'Controlling prostitution for gain'.
If you punt with a trafficked escort, you are breaking the law. If you are reasonably sure an escort is being trafficked (not just guessing), report it here: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/immigration/trafficking/report-human-trafficking/
In the unlikely scenario that the brothel gets raided by the police while you are visiting, you may be asked to give your details. You must do so as giving false details may land you in trouble.
* See Also [[Useful Threads on UKP #Prostitution And the Law| Prostitution and the Law]]
===What about [[Trafficking]]===
If you suspect trafficking, it is your job to report it. [https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/immigration/report-human-trafficking You can do this anonymously.] Do it right away.
Thread on [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=289215.0| trafficking] [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=351077 Another.]
===What about STI/STDs?===
There is no short answer to this question. It is generally advised, however, to engage in safe sex by using condoms at all times; this includes oral sex. Condoms help protect you during oral sex in addition to vaginal or anal sex. "That said, condoms don’t offer 100% protection. For example, the herpes virus can be transmitted to your genitals even if you’re wearing a condom. Why? Herpes is spread through skin-to-skin contact with an infected person. A partner with oral herpes can spread the virus to your genitals during oral sex if your partner’s mouth comes into contact with any area of your genitals that isn’t covered by a condom." <ref>https://www.sexualhealth.com/do-condoms-protect-against-stds-during-oral-sex_question_62/</ref>
Having said that, however, you will notice that a lot of punters opt to engage in [[Glossary #OWO|OWO]] (oral sex without a condom) as it is their preference. Whilst engaging in OWO is a personal choice, it is worth noting that there is a small risk that STIs can be transmitted via unprotected oral sex. Ultimately it is up to you to decide whether the risk involved in OWO merits the rewards you get from it. [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=149738.0 Thread from 2017] [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=329245.0 Thread from 2021]
It is also recommended that you visit GUM clinics regularly; at least every three months. People who frequent sex workers are also advised to have a Hep-B vaccination. You can find your local GUM clinic with this helpful finder:
*[https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/find-a-sexual-health-clinic/ Find a clinic]
or for London
*[https://www.shl.uk/ Sexual Health London]
See also
* [[Useful Threads on UKP #Punting and sexual health | Punting and sexual health discussion threads on UKP]]
* [http://www.tht.org.uk/sexual-health/Improving-your-sexual-health/Oral-sex Terrence Higgins Trust article on Oral Sex and HIV]
* [https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/477702/HIV_in_the_UK_2015_report.pdf 2015 report on HIV]
* [http://www.tradesexualhealth.com/sexual-health.html LGBT site but good advice]
* [https://www.bashhguidelines.org/media/1269/pep-2021.pdf Do I need PEP?] Technical paper on using PEP to avoid HIV infection.
===What is an Incall/Outcall?===
*'''Incall''' - An incall appointment is where you visit the escort in her flat or sometimes a hotel, which she will have booked and paid for. These are usually slightly cheaper than outcall appointments as escorts do not have travel time and can therefore see more clients in a working day. They can also be more discreet as some agencies or escorts require additional security checks for outcall bookings. <br />
*'''Outcall''' - An outcall booking is where you ask an escort to visit you at your home or hotel room. They usually cost more than an Incall to allow for travel time and beyond a certain distance some escorts or agencies may charge travelling expenses on top. Sometimes they will ask for your real name as a security check as they will check on 192.com that you actually live there or with the hotel reception that you are a guest. For security reasons alone this makes them less popular unless you have confidence in the discretion of the agency or escort. [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=319499.0 Thread aug 21]
If you have never seen a prostitute before it is probably best you start by doing an incall.
===I'm a virgin and I'm thinking about losing my virginity to an escort===
In [http://www.ukpunting.com/index.php UKPunting] forums there is usually a consensus that rather than looking for a punt you should look for the reasons why you have not yet lost your virginity. If you are chronically shy and are afraid of building relationships with women maybe you should try and overcome those issues first. Having said that, if you are really interested in losing your virginity to a prostitute then by all means do a bit of research on UKPunting forums and find an escort that you fancy.
As a virgin, you will probably feel very nervous the first time you have sex. That is completely understandable and plucking up the courage to try your first punt will be difficult. Be realistic and don't expect too much of yourself or the punt.
Make sure the escort you choose has good reviews on UKPunting, do try and ignore the feedback from AdultWork. Do not worry about your looks, body or the size of your cock. The prostitute's job is to have sex with strangers for money regardless of their looks, etc. They are also very used to all kinds of male personalities; from the alpha males to the chronically shy. They have seen it all so you will be OK. [https://www.puntingwiki.com/wiki/Punting_Myths#Newbie_Punters_Should_See_a_Mature_Escort_First See Also:Should she be mature? ] [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=122530.0 Thread on the topic]
===I'm a virgin, disabled and would like to visit an escort===
By all means read UKP forums and this wiki to get as much information as possible. If you still have some questions do post them on the forum.
You may also want to look at The TLC Trust; a UK organisation that seeks to connect people with disabilities to sex workers. Tuppy Owens, TLC Trust's founder and sex therapist, said that each of the 100 sex workers listed on the website could be seeing around eight disabled clients a month. <ref>http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/feb/12/disabled-people-valid-sexual-partners</ref>
The TLC Trust - http://www.tlc-trust.org.uk/
=== I am ugly/overweight/I have self confidence issues, will escorts refuse to see me? ===
There is a myth that goes about that prostitutes will only give a good service to good looking punters. Whilst that might be true with very few prostitutes the majority will not care what you look like. Prostitutes are selling a service not looking for dates with eligible men. Because of the nature of their job prostitutes will have seen a huge range of men; from the very ugly to the very good looking. As long as you are clean, polite, respectful and have the agreed amount of money it's highly unlikely she will refuse to see you.
If you have confidence issues about yourself, you can help by doing little things like having a shower before the punt, brush your teeth (halitosis is a huge turn off), do not go overboard with aftershave or antiperspirant, do not try to mask body odour with antiperspirants. Trim or shave your pubic hair. Most prostitutes prefer a clean and well maintained pubic area rather than a very bushy one, especially when offering OWO. Turning up clean and shaved also gives a reassurance to the prostitute that you do take care of yourself and, therefore, cleanliness is important to you.
If it helps you with your confidence, wear clean and smart clothes. Studies have shown that the clothes you wear can have an impact on how you feel about yourself.<ref>http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/04/wearing-a-suit-makes-people-think-differently/391802/</ref> <ref>http://spp.sagepub.com/content/6/6/661</ref>
If you are still anxious about your visit to a prostitute, call her and ask if she sees ugly/overweight men but only do this for your own peace of mind, normally you wouldn't need to do so.
Lastly this is from a prostitute's point of view:
::''"Speaking from the other side of the fence It does not matter if you are fat or skinny, short or tall, handsome or ugly as long as you are clean and smell fresh especially down there and your breath is fresh with no obvious signs of gum disease. If you are all of those you won't get turned away and if she makes it obvious straight away she isn't into you then keep your money and walk. If clean fresh and polite she should be making you feel like the most handsome man on the planet from the moment you walk in the door. No we can't fancy everyone but it should never be shown. We get paid a rather handsome amount to act as if you are the best looking man we have met and to treat you as such and any girl that doesn't is either in the wrong job or has seen you as a soft touch she can take the piss out of so its better for you to leave with your money in your pocket.''
::''Don't think you have to book someone who you feel is in your league as you don't. Just book who you fancy. However unless she states she specialises in seeing inexperienced or nervous guys don't tell her it is your first time (unless recommended on here by known punters) as she could well take the piss. For your first time perhaps look on here in your area for a well reviewed girl so you are pretty well ensured a good time and can be honest about being a virgin. It's probably your safest bet." [https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=72114.msg911431#msg911431 Dani]''
==Other Basics==
